Have you heard the story of James Shupe? He tells his story in an article he wrote called “I Was America’s First ‘Non-binary’ Person. It Was All a Sham,” posted at the Daily Signal. He went from male to ‘female’ to non-binary and finally back to male. And in the process, he went from hero to pariah in the eyes of progressives. He explains,
Trauma, hypersexuality owing to childhood sexual abuse, and autogynephilia [which is when a man is aroused by the image of himself as a female] are all supposed to be red flags for those involved in the medical arts of psychology, psychiatry, and physical medicine—yet nobody except for the one therapist in Pittsburgh ever tried to stop me from changing my sex. They just kept helping me to harm myself.
It is now illegal in Oregon for a counselor to encourage minors with gender dysphoria to accept their biological sex and live their gender accordingly. And our schools follow similar policies, affirming your child’s preferred gender without telling you (if you do not support the transition). So much for parents’ rights.
And all of this in the interest of preventing your child from committing suicide. But it is exactly the opposite situation: your child is 20 times more likely to commit suicide if s/he transitions, even in a trans-affirming environment (so you can’t blame conservatives). If you don’t transition the child, s/he will likely be among the 80-95% of gender-dysphoric children who accept their biological gender. This does not mean you should ignore it and hope it goes away. Therapy may be in order to discover and then deal with the underlying cause(s) of the child’s dysphoria, which may be a cognitive issue, rigid gender stereotypes, idealizing the opposite sex, disdaining one’s own sex, anxiety about same-sex peers, parental relationship issues, sexual abuse, a fantasy solution to some relevant problem, and/or other triggers. But notice that many therapists will not assist you with these as they are ideologically and legally bound to affirm your child’s transgender identity rather than biological identity. You may need someone who is willing to break the law in Oregon or to do as much of this work as possible by yourself. Fortunately, going through puberty seems to help some children accept their biological sex. Biology may be your best ally, which is not surprising. The Creator of nature built His designs and purposes right into His creation.
Let me give you some common sense arguments against transgender ideology. Trans activists sometimes says their gender expression is innate and thus grounded in biology. In this way, they can claim that science is on their side. This claim was examined and found false by Drs. Lawrence Mayer and Paul McHugh (see note 2). In addition, if you have a male body and the desire to be a female, why assume the latter is innate when you know the former is innate? Why must the problem be the body rather than the desire? The body’s chromosomes (XX for females and XY for males) are objective and in place from the moment of fertilization and, of course, the genitalia of 99.98% of babies born will clearly show what sex they are. That’s why sex is recognized (and not assigned) at birth. These are objective scientific facts, whereas desires and self-perceptions of gender are subjective and liable to change. Also, one may have an innate tendency towards violence or addiction. Everyone has an innate tendency towards sin. Does that mean acting on these tendencies is morally permissible? Surely not. If we should question desires like greed, lust for children, and vengeance, why not question other desires such as the desire to identify with the other sex?
Some trans activists drive a wedge between minds and bodies. Rabbi Jay Michaelson says, “Sex is what is between our legs; gender is what is between our ears.” This wedge assumes body-self dualism, the notion that your body is really not part of your self or identity, but rather an instrument your true self (your mind with its desires, self-understanding, and will) uses however you want, even if that means eliminating healthy reproductive organs, changing hormones, and adding artificial genitalia. But consider the absurd things that would follow if body-self dualism was true. You were not born (because birth is something that happens to bodies). Your mother has never hugged you. You are not human. Curing multiple personality disorder kills people. You do not see, hear, touch, smell, or taste anything. You do not die. Clearly none of these things are true. Therefore, body-self dualism is false, the (body) irrelevance argument for transgenderism that assumes body-self dualism is false, and your body is a part of your identity, including your XX or XY chromosomes and reproductive organs.
In conclusion, Christians must find ways to affirm the full human dignity of LGBTQ people that do not communicate agreement with the false elements of their ideology or morality. And don’t be persuaded by the poor arguments, intimidation, and name-calling. Our children’s well-being may well depend on our courage to face and defend the truth.
 Shupe, James. “I Was America’s First ‘Nonbinary’ Person. It Was All a Sham.” Last modified March 10, 2019. Accessed February 20, 2020. https://www.dailysignal.com/2019/03/10/i-was-americas-first-non-binary-person-it-was-all-a-sham/.
 Mayer, Lawrence S., and Paul R. McHugh. “Executive Summary – Sexuality and Gender.” The New Atlantis. Accessed February 7, 2020. https://www.thenewatlantis.com/publications/executive-summary-sexuality-and-gender; Cecilia Dhejne et al., “Long-term follow-up of transsexual persons undergoing sex reassignment surgery: cohort study in Sweden,” PLOS ONE 6 (February 2011): e16885.
Anderson, Ryan T.. When Harry Became Sally (p. 233). Encounter Books. Kindle Edition.
 Paul R. McHugh, Paul Hruz, and Lawrence S. Mayer, Brief of Amici Curiae in Support of Petitioner, Gloucester County School Board v. G.G., Supreme Court of the United States, No. 16-273 (January 10, 2017), 12, http://www.americanbar.org/content/dam/aba/publications/supreme_court_preview/briefs_2016_2017/16-273_amicus_pet_mchugh.authcheckdam.pdf; and Jesse Singal, “What’s Missing From the Conversation About Transgender Kids,” Science of Us, New York, July 25, 2016. In Anderson, Ryan T.. When Harry Became Sally (p. 236). Encounter Books. Kindle Edition.
 Kenneth J. Zucker, “Children with gender identity disorder: Is there a best practice?” Neuropsychiatrie de l’Enfance et de l–Adolescence 56 (September 2008): 358. In Anderson, Ryan T.. When Harry Became Sally (p. 238). Encounter Books. Kindle Edition.
 Robert Sapolsky, “Caught Between Male and Female,” Wall Street Journal, December 6, 2013.